How can counselling help me?

Do you ever think “How have I got to this age, yet when something happens I just want to cry? What’s wrong with me?”

Nothing is wrong with you. But sometimes there is a little child part of you inside, that gets prodded when you’re dealing with something it finds difficult. You can try shutting your ears to it but you feel uncomfortable…..or embarrassed…..or unreasonably anxious……or you think “I’m just being silly”.

You keep up a brave face; you keep things under control; you keep on taking care of other people. You think “I just need to pull myself together – I should be able to cope.”

But, you know, sometimes that little child part of you just needs someone to listen – YOU to listen. And perhaps you could use a little bit of help to learn to listen to that part of you, to make friends.

Counselling and psychotherapy can provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can open up and explore what’s going on for you. You might want to focus on something very specific, or you might not be sure what it is that you need. Whatever the reason that you’ve found my website, counselling can probably help you feel better, or help you get in touch with your emotions. Often the changes you make may be small, but can still significantly improve your life.

Online therapy can be a good option if you find it difficult to keep a regular appointment, if you travel a lot, or if you have a mobility problem or a disability which would make it difficult for you to get to counselling in person. If you haven’t tried therapy before, and are comfortable using a computer, text-based counselling might be an easier first step – where you don’t feel so self-conscious – if you find the idea of sitting in front of someone you don’t know a bit scary.

Among other things, I can help you with

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Grief and loss
  • Learning to live with a long term condition
  • Anger management
  • Stress at work
  • Life changes
  • Difficulty maintaining relationships
  • Loss of purpose or meaning

If you aren’t used to using a computer and don’t like expressing yourself through text or writing, then text-based counselling probably isn’t for you. Web-cam counselling, and phone counselling, also uses computer software for us to connect. Web-cam counselling can seem, on the surface, like face to face counselling – although because of camera positions it is difficult to make eye contact (it can seem as if we’re not looking at each other) so bear in mind this can make it more difficult to feel as if we are connecting than if we were in a room together. You could have a look at my video on the ‘About Me’ page to get a feel for how it might be.

Online counselling differs from in-person face to face counselling in that we don’t have the same clues from body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, etc – so I usually remind clients of this when we start working together, and will ask you to tell me if you think I’ve misunderstood you.

If you are struggling with acute or chronic mental illness then the online counselling environment isn’t appropriate; you are more likely to get the level of contact and support you need through face to face therapy.

Feel free to get in touch with me if you have any questions by emailing